Asshole Brother

I just want to bitch about this asshole brother of mine. He is my second brother and truely a good-for-nothing. He has never been a good brother to me since I was young. He always bullied me and hit me, and I hated him. I still remember how I was being hit and scolded vulgarity (the worst form that anyone could imagine!) for leaving my cup on the table or dropping a piece of food on the floor!

I grow up with no affection towards him. I mean, I respect my eldest brother much more than my second brother. Eventhough my eldest brother is also in a sorry state now, I always look upon the fact that he was always protecting me from the evil deed done by my second brother when I was young.

When has it become that the asshole financial affair become the problem of ours? He had been a failure in life and still IS. Many years ago, he used the name of my dad to apply for a mobile phone line, didn't pay and owed a substantial sum of money. So much that the debt collection agency nearly sued my dad to the court. The hubby intervened in time and my dad hit the roof. He was so worked up that, the very night, his stomach bled.

Seeing that my dad is suffering from serious medical problems, and couldn't take much stress, the hubby intervened on his behalf. He spoke to numerous people, asked for leniancy, reduce penalty, request for installment plans for that asshole to pay up. Asshole promised to pay. Hubby even told asshole to please keep to his words because my dad couldn't take any blows anymore. He sweared that he would pay.

Knowing how that asshole is like, we know that there is a high chance that he would default payment since the name was not under his. To prevent any chance that the debt collector would chase after my dad, hubby secretly arrange for the debt collector to call us as a last resort and not to harass my dad due to his medical condition.

My dad agreed to let him use his name to apply for mobile because he came out with cock-and-bull stories that he needed the line for his job. My dad realized now that it was a bunch of bullshit and regretted letting him use his name! But it is too late now because he has chalked up thousands of dollars on the mobile line using my dad’s name.

Obviously, asshole doesn't have a conscience even when he knows my dad is not able to take any blows. He defaulted payment, giving empty promises. Not only that, he cut off his phone line (under his name) and conveniently direct all bloody debt collection calls to hubby! And let hubby handles all his freaking affair!

What kind of son he is to do that to his father! My dad loves him so much. Does he want to drive my dad to his grave? Most probably he will. He is my dad’s bad karma. He is here in this life to create havoc to the family.

He was once a bankrupt. My dad has helped him settle his bills before, even those with loan sharks. He has a wife who is a spendtriff and doesn’t think before she splurge on branded items. When things got bad, she asked him to go to his dad. She is also another asshole. Her parents have long since disown her.

Honestly, I won’t help him if this issue has no association with my dad. I cannot see that my dad is sent to court with me doing nothing. I love my dad dearly and I won’t let him reach this stage. Ultimately, it is my dad who is held responsible for the asshole shit, not that asshole. And that asshole is taking things very lightly now since the bill is not under his name!

My dad still doesn’t know our involvement in this, and that the asshole is defaulting payments . Not that I don’t want to let him know, but I don’t want this revelation to kick start his severe stomach pain and high blood pressure.

That asshole has been a failure throughout his life. He has never once stayed in a job for more than 6 months to earn a decent living for his family. He stole from my dad and has always been a trouble maker. He is getting his retribution because his daughter is following in his footstep and has been shoplifting.

I have no sympathy for him. I will never forget the nasty things he did to me. If my childhood is being tarnished by a flaw, it will be him. I have 2 brothers. No matter what happen, I will still spare a thought for my eldest brother because he doted on me. I am grateful to my eldest brother for always protecting me when I was young. Till today, I still call my eldest brother “da ge” (eldest brother in chinese). For that asshole, I have never once refered him as my brother. I only called him his name. Actually, a better name for him would be “asshole”.

I am married now and no longer has to live in the shadow of this asshole. I have hubby to protect me and asshole will never have a chance to scold vulgarity or hit me again. Yes, I still have ugly images of him brought on by his constant abuses during my childhood, and in my heart, there is always fear and vulnerability eventhough I know I have every means to protect myself. Asshole is no longer nasty to me. Still, in this area, I feel vulnerable enough to need hubby to shield me.

Note to Jin
This brother I am referring to is the one who commented you were a pretty lady during Joel's 3rd birthday celebration.